Hello, I'm Naomi.
I’m a confidence coach helping stressed-out people pleasers learn to clarify personal priorities, create healthy boundaries, and say NO with confidence by becoming Thoughtfully Selfish.
HERE'S MY STORY...
How I Went From Doing What Was Expected,
To Creating a Life I Love.
Before I became a confidence coach, empowering women to put SELF first, I was an average girl, from a typical blue-collar family, raised by an auto worker and stay-at-home mom.
I graduated high school and went to college to be an elementary school teacher. My mom said that's what I should do, so that's what I did. I hadn't developed a better plan for myself.
I did what I was told. I did what was expected.
Success, Failure & Reinvention
After graduating from college, I got a job as a teacher back in my hometown. Life was predictably average. I was making decent money for a 23 year old college grad. What did I have to complain about?
I was dying a little everyday.
After a couple of years, I began to wonder, "Is this it?" I stressed over how I was going to get through the next 20 years in this job that was fine, but not my passion. I had done what I was told. I followed the system. There was a disconnect. I didn't know who I was. I had no clue what my passions were. I'd never taken the time to find out my purpose.
I was living someone else's life.
Through an unfortunate set of circumstances, I lost my teaching job, which sent me into a tailspin. This failure forced me to discover who I was and what kind of life I wanted for myself. I had to go deep inside to get to know myself for the first time. This struggle allowed me to become who I am today.
I Discovered Life Is About Unlearning
What You Have Been Taught
As young girls we are all conditioned to be patient, follow the leader, raise our hand, and wait our turn. We are taught to be pleasant, giving, and accommodating. We are encouraged to color inside the lines and absolutely do not challenge the status quo.
Owning My SELF - Becoming Thoughtfully Selfish
The most important lesson I learned is to put myself first. Living with intention. Clarifying my priorities. Creating healthy boundaries. Learning to say NO. When I stopped being a people pleaser and started being thoughtfully selfish, I began to create an extraordinary life, on my own terms.
"If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you... Not much."