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Go Have a Couple of Pints

My camper storage facility burned down last month, leaving nothing but ashes.

Shopping for a new camper was not on my to-do list this year.  However, if I want to enjoy the summer, I need to get a move on.

Sitting down with a salesperson, whether it’s a house, car, or camper can be stressful.  Something happens to my brain when confronted with big purchases, negotiations, and deadlines. 

I’ve come a long way in my journey to say NO, but these high-pressure situations can still hijack my ability to think rationally.  I become very susceptible to coercion and automatically take a passive role.

Knowing this is my weakness, I have developed a strategy with my husband.  We call it the “couple of pints” response.

We never say YES without taking time away from the table to think.  

Whenever we are making large purchases, we always tell the salesperson, “Thank you for the information.  We never make big decisions on the spot.  We are going to go have a couple of pints and think this over.  We’ll let you know our decision tomorrow.”  

Our “couple of pints” strategy developed from buyer’s remorse. 

A few years ago, we found ourselves in a time-share sales pitch.  We were caught up in the excitement and bought into the program. 

Upon self-reflection we could see how our rational brains were hijacked by the situation.  We were excited, rushed, and very hungry by the end of the pitch.  We just wanted to be done and get something to eat.  So, we signed on the dotted line.

While finally grabbing dinner, and a couple of pints, we felt like we had made a mistake.  This costly lesson forced us to ensure we never make this mistake again.

That’s where the “couple of pints” response was born.

A few weeks ago, while shopping for our new camper, we found ourselves enamoured with a beautiful, big RV.  It had everything we wanted and more.  It was gorgeous.  At the end of negotiations, we pulled the brake.

“Thank you for the information.  We never make big decisions on the spot.  We are going to go have a couple of pints and think this over.  We’ll let you know our decision tomorrow.”  

We took the time to write out our pros and cons.  We went over our budget.  We looked at all the inventory again. 

Something wasn’t sitting well with me.  My gut was unsettled.  I felt like we were missing something.

Sure enough, just before we were scheduled to sign the papers, we realized that this RV was too big for our truck to tow.  It would have been a colossal blunder – thousands of dollars and a lot of headaches. 

Taking the time to decide was crucial for us in making the right decision and avoiding a catastrophe.

We make dozens of decisions a day.  Most are inconsequential.  But it only takes one bad decision to throw us off our game. 

By delaying our response, we allow ourselves to control our resources (time, energy, money).  Instead of being hijacked, we decide what is in our best interest.

Do you always feel the pressure of answering immediately?  For those of us who instinctively say YES, creating a delayed response can make a huge difference.  

Before saying YES, take a time out.  Give your brain a chance to catch up.

How can you delay your answer and give yourself some time to decide?  What is your “couple of pints” response?


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