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Stop Waiting and Wishing and Wanting

I overheard a conversation the other day that made me so sad.

Two guys were talking, and one asked the other, “What did you do this weekend?”

“Oh, my wife and I went camping up in Wellsley Island.  It’s just the two of us now, but we enjoy it.  We bought new e-bikes and rode around the island.  The weather was great, and we clocked over 40 miles in one day.  How about you?  What did you do this weekend?”

“Nothing,” the other guy responded.  “We never do anything.  My wife and I say we’d like to do something with the kids, but Saturday always rolls around and we have nothing planned.  So, we just sit around at home.”

A wave of sadness washed through me hearing this response.  Then my curiosity kicks in and I wish I could ask:

What would you enjoy doing?
How do you make memories with your family?
What is stopping you from making weekend plans?

I have so many questions.

I cannot comprehend this level of complacency.  I am always planning something.  My next three weekends are booked.  I have camping reservations in September, vacation reservations in October, and am currently researching a trip to Iceland for February 2023. 

When we don’t take control of ourselves, we fall into one of two buckets - we do nothing with our time and energy, or our lives are hijacked by others who use us for their own advancement. 

This is why I am fanatical about being thoughtfully selfish.  I don’t want to waste my life waiting and wishing and wanting.  I don’t want to have any regrets.

I feel sorry for this guy, but more so for his kids.  Every weekend is an opportunity to enjoy life and make memories.  They are missing out.  What a shame.

If you find yourself waiting or wishing or wanting something different ask yourself, “What is one small action I can take today to get me closer to my desire?”

Unsatisfied with your career?  What small action can you take to improve your situation?

Underwhelmed with your relationship?  What small action can you take to spice it up?

Unhealthy and unfit?  What small action can you take to incorporate more wellness?

If we want to live our best lives, we cannot wait around for someone else to plan our days.  We must take control of ourselves and be deliberate with our resources (time, energy, money, health).

Tell me one small action you can take today to get you closer to your desire.

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