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What Comes Next?

Have you ever found yourself repeating old patterns?  Maybe a bad habit you broke, or an issue you thought was in your past, has suddenly reappeared?

The universe has a funny way of testing us from time to time. 

It begins with a little whisper.  Then the subtle hints become more noticeable.  If we continue to ignore the signs, we eventually get hit with a metaphorical brick to the side of the head.

Years ago, when I decided to stop doing fertility treatments, I discovered that I was on a path I didn’t want to continue traveling.  I was focused on what others wanted at the expense of my own needs and desires. 

Back then, I got clarity around who I was, what I wanted, and where I wanted to go.  This awareness lead me on an amazing journey of personal and professional development. 

This spring I found myself trapped in my old thought pattern. 

I have been low, turned inward and having debates with myself about my life.  I blamed the long, cold, dark winter for my ennui.  This summer I distracted myself with outdoor activities and a full calendar.  Then, this fall I realized I couldn’t keep avoiding my situation. 

What I finally came to realize is that I was unbalanced again. 

I have been fully committed to helping others fight the demons of people pleasing and find their confidence.  I have steadily created and grown a small business.  I am a supportive wife, daughter, sister, and friend.  I have continuously improved my confidence and focused my energy on helping others find their thoughtfully selfish path.

I have had my head down for the last ten years.  It’s been a rewarding experience.  But, I am not the same person I was ten years ago.  And the questions keep getting louder and louder in my mind…

Who are you NOW?

What do you want NOW?

Where are you going NOW?

Life is a process of continuous improvement.  Change is constant.  As we achieve one goal, a new one will take its place.  We must keep growing.  Asking ourselves - what comes next - propels us forward.

The fog of my discontent is finally lifting.  It’s exciting!  I don’t know where I will be ten years from now, but I look forward to exploring the possibilities. 

“No man ever steps in the same river twice,
for it's not the same river and he's not the same man.”

If you are feeling stuck, it might be time to evaluate and evolve. 

What comes next?

For more tips and tricks to Create Healthy Boundaries and Say NO With Confidence, download my free People Pleaser's Toolkit and begin practicing today.  

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