"My friends can't believe the difference in me."
Before, I felt guilt and shame when I focused on myself. Then I met Naomi and she showed me how to be selfish in healthy ways. Now I feel the power of putting myself first. And my friends can't believe the difference in me.
DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU?
"I stay awake at night with guilt because it feels like I'm letting everyone down."
"I'm so afraid people won't like me. That they'll think I'm not caring enough."
"I will kill myself making everyone around me happy, even at the expense of my own happiness."
"I wish I knew how to give without totally depleting myself."
"I'm spending money I don't have entertaining others with nothing left for the things I want.
"Yes is an automatic response. I don't even think before agreeing and giving in."
"I get so mad at myself for caving in, but I just don't know how to say 'No'."
"I always end up doing things I don't want to do, then become resentful when nobody is there for me."
You are NOT ALONE
It's no secret women are expected to be all things to all people.
We wear ALL the hats – wife, mom, daughter, volunteer, co-worker, manager, neighbor, friend…
No matter how good we are, how hard we work, or how much we give, one of the most important skills we need to thrive in life is this:
We must learn how to prioritize our needs in a HEALTHY WAY that allows us to control our time, money, and sanity — or we won’t survive.
If you want to thrive over the long term, you must learn how to become thoughtfully selfish. More giving and treading water to survive is not the answer.
I know this because becoming thoughtfully selfish has given me the freedom to live my values, make better decisions, eliminate guilt, and spend my time doing the things I want to do. I have created a life I love, on MY terms.
Putting yourself first is a required skill if you want to be HEALTHIER, HAPPIER, and enjoy FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS.
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While coaching in the corporate world, I realized every woman had one thing in common – they were stuck and unfulfilled until they learned to put SELF first. Clarifying personal priorities and creating healthy boundaries has helped every single client break through their barriers to success.
I have built a successful business, cultivated a loving relationship with my husband, protected my finances, and prioritized my health. Putting myself first has boosted my confidence and self-esteem, and relieved unnecessary pressure from outside manipulators.
But here’s the scary part…
The one thing I’ve watched crush otherwise capable women was the struggle to
BE LOVING and GIVING without completely depleting themselves.
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Which is exactly why I wanted to help. I interviewed women from all walks of life and created a coaching program that guides you, step by step, how to identify your priorities, create healthy boundaries, and say NO with confidence so you can become more thoughtfully selfish.
Because putting yourself first is the difference between spending your time, energy and money to achieve YOUR dreams and desires… or watching with regret as everyone else achieves theirs.
Becoming thoughtfully selfish makes you say,
“OMG, I feel so much happier.”
“My relationship with my spouse is SOOO good.”
“It’s so AWESOME I get to do the things I want to do.”
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"I feel so much happier and less stressed."
I used to care deeply about what other people thought about me. Now, the guilt is gone. I feel so much happier and less stressed because I am not focused on what other people think anymore.
Communicate with Confidence and Live Life on YOUR Terms
Thoughtfully Selfish Coaching is a series of one-one-one coaching conversations designed to help you communicate your needs and desires more clearly and powerfully, in your own style – FAST.
By the end of the program you will be able to...
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Protect Your Time,
Money, Health, and
Relationships
You will clarify YOUR priorities and define YOUR desires so you can begin realizing YOUR dreams, This time-tested strategy teaches you to focus on yourself instead of others.
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Identify & Handle Users, Manipulators, & Energy Vampires
Equip yourself with tools to neutralize bad actors and stop them from stealing your joy. No more caving to the pressure of those who take advantage of your giving nature.
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Clearly Defend Your Desires and Say NO with Confidence
You'll learn how to communicate what you want (and what you don't) while honoring your priorities. Put an end to wishy-washy responses that leave room for argument and manipulation.
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Practice Giving without Depleting Yourself
You are entitled to live YOUR life on YOUR terms. You will set boundaries and find a healthy the balance between taking care of others and taking care of yourself.
"I loved working with Naomi. I felt safe, seen, and heard."
Naomi was instrumental in helping me make decisions in alignment with me. I learned skills people pleasers are never taught, like how to think of myself before thinking about what other people want. And even better — how to disappoint others and still feel great about my decisions. I loved working with her. I felt safe, seen, and heard. She is an amazing listener and often reflected things back to me that I couldn’t see. I have much less fear about doing what I need to do for myself. Which, when you think about it, is essential for a happy and fulfilled life.
Join the
#THOUGHTFULLYSELFISH
movement!
You're about to feel more empowered and energized than ever before.
You'll see improvement in your self-confidence, get clarity on your needs and desires, and feel the satisfaction of reclaiming control over your time, money and sanity.
I can’t wait to help you get into the driver's seat, so you can live your life on your terms.
POISED - 3 Month Discovery Program - $1497
Discover the first step in the process of becoming a stronger, happier, and healthier person. Identify how your unconscious people-pleasing habits are allowing users, manipulators, and energy vampires to steal your joy.
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Weekly/Bi-Weekly 45-minute one-on-one coaching sessions
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Clarity Assessment - define where you are and where you want to be
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Trigger Appraisal - identify the people and situations that drain your energy the most
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Boundary Setting Action Plan
CONFIDENT - 6 Month Rapid Growth Program - $2997
You are ready to break the cycle and create new habits that lead to more time doing what you love, more confidence in your decisions, less guilt and stress, and better relationships with those you love. Become a better communicator and stronger advocate for your dreams and desires.
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Weekly/Bi-Weekly 45-minute one-on-one coaching sessions
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Clarity Assessment - define where you are and where you want to be
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Trigger Appraisal - identify the people and situations that drain your energy the most
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Boundary Setting Action Plan
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Confidence Boosting Communication Strategies - learn how to deal with bullies and overwhelming personalities
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Thoughtfully Selfish Journal
FEARLESS - 9 Month Deep Dive Program - $4497
You are committed to creating long-term, positive change and letting go of burn out, stress, and guilt. You are ready to set boundaries on your time, energy, and money. You are serious about putting your wants and needs first. You are ready to take control and live your life on your terms.
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Weekly/Bi-Weekly 45-minute one-on-one coaching sessions
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Clarity Assessment - define where you are and where you want to be
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Trigger Appraisal - identify the people and situations that drain your energy the most
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Boundary Setting Action Plan
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Confidence Boosting Communication Strategies - learn how to deal with bullies and overwhelming personalities
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Thoughtfully Selfish Journal
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Real-time support for immediate reaction to trigger situations
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Fearless Action Plan - prepare your defenses against guilt, shame, and imposter syndrome
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Self-Care Action Plan - strategies for keeping your batteries charged
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Quick Win Single Sessions - available on-demand for when you need to brainstorm an important decision in the future
Each package includes email/text support between coaching sessions, personalized assignments with action steps between each session, and a written report summarizing each coaching session.
"I can't believe I didn't see this before."
I just did a Deep Dive session with Naomi and have more clarity than I've had in about 5 years. WOW! What a great way to end the week.
"I'm more healthy. Mentally and physically."
My role in my family was to be the peacemaker. I worked hard to make everyone happy. But by putting myself first I have learned how to make better decisions for myself. And I am more healthy, mentally and physically.
Do More of What Makes You Happy
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